The following and all of the other episodes to come are snapshots of what goes on in my head, now and in the past. There are times none of this will make sense. There will be times when I might get lucky and the blog I post will be well constructed and will flow like a mountain stream to an awaiting lake below. Other times it will seem like the ramblings of a madman and you’ll ask yourself, “What the……?”
You should probably get used to the latter.
EPISODE ONE HUNDRED EIGHTY ONE: WHAT’S THE BEST OPINION?
When I was 8 years old, it mattered what my favorite singer said and wore and expressed opinions about.
This post isn’t all about my fellow December the 13th birthday sharer, Ms. Taylor Swift.
But some of it is.
This blog post was partially inspired by her.
Here we go…
What’s the old saying by Simone Elkeles? “Opinions are like assholes, everybody’s got one…” Very true. One of the truest sayings ever said.
And the way some people feel about their own opinions can make them into assholes. (I said that part.)
We all have opinions. Music, movies, politics, religion, how we live our lives, how others live their lives, the places we eat, the places we shop, the cars that we drive, the houses we live in, the money we make and what we do with it… And on and on and on.
And a few of us with our opinions are always right. Our opinions are the best and most sound of any opinion uttered by anyone else, regardless of experience or lack thereof.
Of course not.
Some opinions are based on our own experiences. But that doesn’t mean that your opinions fit someone else’s. They have had their own challenges and their lives have taken many paths, mostly those that are different than others.
Our likes and dislikes vary. And when there is no harm in those differences, some people find it insulting when you don’t agree with them. Even the smallest littlest thing.
Let’s take the earlier mentioned Taylor Swift.
There are those that love her or like her or tolerate her.
Then there are those that hate her or dislike her or… tolerate her.
These differences are based on or on tastes and the roots grown from our childhood. My parents or older siblings or friends wouldn’t have listened to her so why should I?
My parents or older siblings or friends wouldn’t have listened to her so… I will. Just to piss them off.
A lot of our likes and dislikes start when we are children, just learning about the world and how to get through days without arguments. We learn to go with the flow. If we are brave, we discover our own interests, even if they aren’t the same as those around us. I think that’s when opinions begin.
And it’s at this time when we learn that others might have a different one from yours. We must learn how to cope with these differences. Usually, when we are younger, it’s harder for us to accept that somebody we are friends with our or family might not like what we like and we take offense. We become hurt. Then we begin to second guess ourselves on our likes. We wonder if we are flat out wrong.
Sometimes that’s true.
But… not always.
But as we get older and we start to understand more about the reason we like what we like, we start to take a stronger stand and defend our likes and loves. That’s when it gets tricky. If what we like (or what they like) isn’t hurting anybody, we must respect the differences. We should nod our head and say, “That’s cool.” It doesn’t mean you’re going to change your mind and buy into what they like. It’s just respect and your saying, ‘I dig that you like what you like. I’m not into that but good for you.’
Hell, you might not like the subject now… but later on… who knows?
I have seen grown adults have fits… FITS… of rage when they found out you like something that they don’t.|
“HOW DARE YOU HAVE YOUR OWN OPINION AND LIKE SOMETHING I DON’T.”
I’ve seen it. I had to sit back and make sure I was looking at a grown adult. Well, physically grown adult. They were not able to understand how disconnected they looked, disconnected from maturity.
(I laughed from disbelief. This person did not like it. The situation became worse… I laughed again.)
So, I’ll bring back Ms. Swift. I don’t usually listen to ‘Pop-py’ music. I listen to other things that I have developed a taste for. Some of this music I have been listening to since I was a kid. (Hey, I like what I like.) But… I like her. I like the words that she writes. And though we are a couple of decades apart in age and have had been on different roads and different experiences, some of her songs ‘speak’ to me.
So… I like her and listen to her.
I’m sure some of my metalhead friends are cursing me out and calling me names.
But… I’m pretty sure… some of them are not and nodding their heads in understanding. Their opinion may be the same as mine.
And there is nothing wrong with it. N-o-t-h-i-n-g.
And goes for many other things in my life and in yours.
The point I’m trying to make here is… like what you like. Respect other people’s likes. If you don’t what to like what somebody else likes… don’t.
That’s pretty simple, isn’t it?
We live in a big world and there are lots of problems going on. Hell, since the beginning when people started walking and talking (or crawled out of the seas). Countries and civilizations have been warred upon in the pursuit of making others think the way we do.
And it’s still going on.
I can’t do anything about the big things. But I can small things.
And you can, too.
And if we stop worrying about the smaller ones so much, maybe the bigger ones will not seem so undaunting.
This is just my opinion but I think that’s a good… opinion.
-Loyd Elmore Jr
July 10th, 2020
I’ve decided to keep a blog about how I’m dealing with depression. I’m going to consider this a form of therapy. It might not help anybody else but it might help me.