The following and all of the other episodes to come are snapshots of what goes on in my head, now and in the past. There are times none of this will make sense. There will be times when I might get lucky and the blog I post will be well constructed and will flow like a mountain stream to an awaiting lake below. Other times it will seem like the ramblings of a madman and you’ll ask yourself, “What the……?”
You should probably get used to the latter.
EPISODE ONE HUNDRED FORTY TWO: ASSUMPTION CONSUMPTION, WHAT’S YOUR FUNCTION?
My apologies to School House Rock…
This blog post was brought about by a dream I had. It involved a friend of mine from school and, now, Facebook. Not sure why this person entered my dream but I guess that’s how a lot of dreams go. I can’t tell you what the whole dream was about because most of it has faded in the blackness when I awoke. But the one thing I remember is this person had a dream scene with me where they made this comment:
“You wouldn’t know anything about this, Loyd.”
It must have been some situation where this person made the uneducated decision that I would not have any idea how to approach some subject that we were faced with.
In other words, they made an assumption.
If you wanted to make me mad, if you wanted to get my blood to boil, if you wanted to insult the HELL out of me, assume that I have no idea on what is being discussed or I don’t have the intelligence to understand some subject. And if you do that, expect to get a look of downright disgust from me and maybe be called a couple of names you probably wouldn’t want to hear in the church of your choice.
And I don’t think I’m the only one that feels that way.
I make no claims of knowing everything. Anyone who thinks they know everything is a fool. That’s right. I said it and I mean it. A FOOL!
And I, my friends, am not a fool. I may have done some foolish things in my life (and probably will have a few more foolish things to add before I say ‘nighty-night’ for the last time) but I am no fool. And if I don’t know anything about something, I will say so. And if it’s something I want to know, I will say that as well. If not, I won’t waste my time on a subject I don’t feel is important to me.
But let’s not assume I can’t understand what you’re saying or what is going on. Believe it or not, I have been given a few talents. Through God or just from natural ‘pass-me-downs’ through DNA and evolution. Or aliens. Maybe it’s aliens. One of those talents is comprehending situations and the problems that might lie within. Then taking said problems and formulating a workable solution through experiment and reasoning.
In other words: I use my brain.
That’s what it’s there for. And to assume that I don’t know how to use this gray, black, white, red, and yellow organ (look it up, non-believers) between my ears is insulting. And I know I’m not the only one.
Most people make assumptions on just emotions, not logical reasoning. They make assumptions without thinking. They are based on anger and/or laziness. It’s foolish to go by how someone may dress or speak or live and assume they know nothing, that their intelligence is on the low end of the knowledge spectrum. Sometimes the keys to the kingdom are not handed to the smartest or brightest.
Now, sometimes assumptions can be correct. You may notice the actions of a fellow human being and they always seem to be ‘in it’ for themselves and always take without giving. Maybe you notice that they seem to be talking out the side of their mouth whenever they open their gob. Or, maybe, they lack the filter on their brain and mouth and they say whatever hurtful thing they can just to get a reaction. Then, yes, maybe your assumption is correct that they might be a horrible person that happens to have low intelligence. But usually actions speak loudly and over time, we see their true face. Honestly, after a point, it’s not an assumption. It’s a fact.
But to look at another person that you have had no dealings with or you just don’t like due to jealousy and to make yourself feel better, you automatically think they are not holding aces in the poker game of intelligence. And that is wrong.
“Well, Mr. Elmore. Are you saying you have never made an uneducated assumption?”
I am guilty as charged. I have been lazy and have not thought an accusation out well enough. I have stuck out my nose and deemed someone or something a certain way because I had my own lapse of reasoning and didn’t take the time to think it through or I took somebody else’s uneducated word for it because I didn’t want to be the odd man out and speak my own feelings. Oh, yes. I’m guilty of being a coward and was flippant in a quick decision.
To err is human.
But, believe it or not, as I have got older, I have actually become wiser. I am not kidding. To look at me, you’d think the opposite (there you go assuming again). I have learned to think before speaking or acting. I have even learned to ponder on thoughts and weighing the attributes of a given subject and how they affect a certain subject or even multiple subjects. I have pushed back most rash impulses and try to see both sides of a subject. It takes patience and practice. Sometimes it takes going for a walk or getting in a room by myself and beating the crap out of a pillow until I’m tired.
But age and time and putting forth an effort to think more clearly and more often, not speaking on a subject before knowing the facts and weighing your own feelings because sometimes your feelings are wrong.
Assumptions can sometimes be correct. It’s just when it comes to backing up your assumptions, you won’t be able to defend them due to lack of actual information. ‘Just because I say so’, doesn’t really work. Thoughts and feelings need to be run through an obstacle course before speaking or writing or acting. Once you have your information (facts), then… make your assumptions.
But to be honest, once you do the homework, it’s not really an assumption anymore.
Then it becomes truth.
As my favorite show says, ‘The truth is out there.’
You just have to work for it…
-Loyd Elmore Jr
March 1st, 2019
I’ve decided to keep a blog about how I’m dealing with depression. I’m going to consider this a form of therapy. It might not help anybody else but it might help me.