The following and all of the other episodes to come are snapshots of what goes on in my head, now and in the past. There are times none of this will make sense. There will be times when I might get lucky and the blog I post will be well constructed and will flow like a mountain stream to an awaiting lake below. Other times it will seem like the ramblings of a madman and you’ll ask yourself, “What the……?”
You should probably get used to the latter.
EPISODE NINETY EIGHT: Get The Pb Out and Lead!!!
Numerous times, I have found myself in the position as a leader. I wasn’t much of one when I was little. I didn’t find myself as one until I got into high school. I was the one that had the ideas and the plans. And it didn’t hurt that I tried to be the ‘funny’ one.
I have to add that I didn’t mind stepping back and following if somebody else’s plan was tight and made sense. I didn’t mind to allow someone to step up and lead the way. But they had to earn it. If I felt like their leadership was nothing but show, then I would quietly bow out and go home. I knew well enough not to follow blindly. I cared too much for myself to do that.
And that has been the way it has always been.
There are a lot of people who believe they can lead. My opinion is a lot of those ‘a lot of people‘ are wrong. It takes a special set of skills to lead. Just ask Liam Neeson. You have to know how people think and you have to learn the personalities of who is following you. It helps to be understanding and know where they are coming from.
A lot of this can be learned.
But the best leaders are born with an extra special ability that draws others to them. They send out a vibe that is trusting and have more than their share of charisma. I believe these people just send out physical beams of positive light from their souls.
Have you ever seen a really great leader? I’m not talking about famous leaders (unless you know one personally). I’m talking about seeing a leader at a job that you have been at. I hope so. For me, in all of the jobs I have had in my life, I have only had one. And it was for a short period of time. They pulled him away to work at a corporate office. I always thought that was typical.
Other than him (name withheld), I may have had a couple of supervisors or bosses that was close but had a few too many problems that kept them from the high level in my eyes.
As for the rest, I always try to figure out how they got the job. Did they know somebody? Did they have damning information on somebody above them? Or did the company just couldn’t find anybody better or didn’t care who they hired to lead their employees.
You may think I’m being harsh. You bet I am. If you are going to lead, you HAVE to earn respect. You can’t threaten for respect. You can’t bribe for respect. You have to LEAD. You have to earn it. You have to put yourself out there and get your hands dirty with your employees. You have to get to know them and find out what makes them tick. I’m not saying have to be their buddy or pal.
I’m saying that have to care.
When you lead people, you can’t just sit at your desk and try to get people to follow from there. You have to be at one with your employees.
I see characters that play leaders on TV shows and movies that I wish were real people that I knew. Sure. I know they aren’t real but I can’t help but wish they were…and they were my boss.
The ones I always think about is Yoda and Obi-Wan Kenobi from Star Wars. Don’t laugh. I really do. I think about Morpheus from The Matrix movies. Rick Grimes from The Walking Dead (as long as he’s not talking into unplugged phone where he has conversations with his dead wife…You know what? Forget it. I’d take him that way, too).
Let me say this. It’s not easy to be a good leader. There is a lot of work involved. You have to build trust. And it takes time to lead a large group. You won’t reach everybody, no matter how good you are at it. But if you’re good, even the ones that can’t be reached will leave or know to follow along anyway.
I’ve said before that I think I do very few things well. I believe leading would be one. It’s just the position I have found myself in life gives me little chance and low opportunity to do so. As I’ve said before, I find myself on the low rung of the ladder more often than most. Getting a chance to show I know what needs to be done is held back. Not just from the powers that be. I hold myself back. I keep from putting myself out there to lead because of dislike of the powers that be, the ones in control. And it’s more than just dislike, it’s a lack of respect. It’s hard to respect those that you don’t think they could tie their own shoes or lead you out of a paper bag.
How some people get into a leadership role when they don’t deserve it is beyond me.
Sure. Some people you think are horrible with their leadership skills night be wonderful to others. There may be qualities that you think is lacking in someone that others may find in abundance.
I’m not saying those people are wrong but…no…I am saying they are wrong. I think there are ones that just settle and don’t want to rock the boat because they get comfortable. They might get used to the abuse and prefer to not say anything about it.
I’m not that way. I have seen and experienced great leadership. Why can’t others want it for themselves?
In the point in my life, I may never see myself in the role. In my family, yes, but that is a shared leadership. Neither I nor my wife is the set leader. Depending on the situation and subject, we alternate. But in a business or a work-related situation, it’s probably not going to happen. And the odds of me seeing a great leader may be beyond me, too.
If I win the lottery and build a business, then I can put my money where my mouth is.
Or I find myself working for myself. Then the only person that can complain is me.
That will be fine. I’m used to it.
All I can say is show your children what a good leader is. Show them if they have to follow to be particular about who they do follow. Teach them to not go blindly.
There are enough of those in the world.
February 2nd, 2018
I’ve decided to keep a blog about how I’m dealing with depression. I’m going to consider this a form of therapy. It might not help anybody else but it might help me.