The following and all of the other episodes to come are snapshots of what goes on in my head, now and in the past. There are times none of this will make sense. There will be times when I might get lucky and the blog I post will be well constructed and will flow like a mountain stream to an awaiting lake below. Other times it will seem like the ramblings of a madman and you’ll ask yourself, “What the……?”
You should probably get use to the latter.
EPISODE SEVENTY TWO: Don’t Stare And Dare To Compare!
There are a lot of humans that act just like children most of time. We push and bully, we get selfish and greedy. And there is that whole thing about comparing ourselves to other people.
When you were a kid, did you ever have a conversation that sounded like this?
First kid – We have a TV in our living room and one downstairs in the den.
Second kid – So what? We have one in the living room and the den and I have one in MY room.
Maybe it wasn’t about TV’s but I bet it sounds familiar. Even at a young age, we are taught to compare ourselves to others. If we have less than somebody else, it somehow makes us inferior. If somebody has more than we do, you hate them, even a little bit because of jealousy.
I have been guilty of it myself. There would be a kid with a new bike and I would dislike it. I’d wonder how come I couldn’t have a new bike. Or one of my friends would have some cool toy and jealousy would raise its ugly head. I’d wonder what made him so great that he could have that.
But I wasn’t too bad. Maybe a little less than normal. It’s true. And kids are somewhat expected to act like that to a point.
It’s when you become an adult that makes all the difference.
When you’re an adult and you act like that child, it’s a problem.
We see it all of the time. It usually comes from social media now. Before it was just talking behind somebody’s back, now it’s right out there for everybody to see because the person is saying it is behind a computer screen, protected from looking at somebody in their eyes.
We see other people with different ideas than us or different beliefs or just different anything and we feel the need to cut into them. We think it’s our way or the highway. Then we slash into them.
They aren’t voting the way I am???
They LIKE that movie???
They don’t believe in what I do???
Why do they think that way???
What makes them think they can say that???
I think this represents a minority of people. I believe we have come a long way in the past few decades in acceptance.
But…there is still a LOT of work to be done.
And I think the first place we need to start is the act of comparing ourselves to other people.
When we are different from others, it’s not a bad thing. Unless they are doing bad things. We know what they are, the bad things. It usually involves pressing your will on others in horrible ways.
But other than those, differences are good. But we have to be open to learn from those differences. When we do, the common ground can be found. We may not be so different after all.
The old saying about apples and oranges should be thought about. One is not better than the other. They are just different. Some may like one over the other but that doesn’t make the other bad. Not at all. Unless the apple decides to shoot up a school or blow up a bomb or rape somebody. Then, blame that one apple, not the bushel. Or the tree it grew on. If it is the tree it grew on that’s the blame, don’t blame the whole orchard.
But being humans, and not fruit, it’s hard for some people to do this. If one individual person does something, they think it’s their family or their culture or their race or their religion is to blame.
THAT. MAKES. NO. SENSE. TO. ME.
That comes from a place of ignorance, stupidity, and laziness. There is no intelligence in that way of thinking.
And comparing yourself to another by what they have comes from that very same place.
We are all different. Every person on this planet. All the ones that came before you, all the ones here, and all of the ones to come after you are dead and gone.
We may have similar tastes and likes and thoughts and feelings but everything we experience, every second of our life pushes us into a different direction. And that goes with everybody else. And each second cause a different possible outcome. And each one adds up a number of possible outcomes that is uncountable.
That makes us all different.
When we figure that out, and accept it…then, and only then can we consider ourselves a group. A group of individuals.
There are people in this world that will have a lot more than I do. They’ll have a fancier car, a bigger house, more money in the bank, get more respect… And that doesn’t make them a bad person. There are plenty of rich people who do a lot of good in this world.
There are people in this world that are homeless. They have no car. They have no money. They get NO respect… And that doesn’t make them a bad person, either. A lot of them are more honest than the people that have everything.
But what makes them seem bad in some eyes is the comparison.
Comparing can get you into trouble. It can make you think the wrong things.
Treat each other as a individual. A lone person with their own ‘self’.
Let’s let the apples and oranges and the bananas and the…pears…live together, in the bowl we call Earth, in harmony.
June 16th, 2017
I’ve decided to keep a blog about how I’m dealing with depression. I’m going to consider this a form of therapy. It might not help anybody else but it might help me.