The following and all of the other episodes to come are snapshots of what goes on in my head, now and in the past. There are times none of this will make sense. There will be times when I might get lucky and the blog I post will be well constructed and will flow like a mountain stream to an awaiting lake below. Other times it will seem like the ramblings of a madman and you’ll ask yourself, “What the……?”
You should probably get use to the latter.
EPISODE EIGHTEEN: Brace For Impact!!!!!!!!
Have you ever had someone make an impact on your life? Did the impact that they made change the direction of your way of thinking? Or did someone make such an impact on you that they changed your life?
I will bet you have. But the biggest question is this…have you thanked them?
I think we should make it a point to do so. Not only is it the right thing to do but they may need to hear it. They may be in a moment of their life that your kind words may have an impact on them like theirs was for you.
This is what this blog post is about.
I have had people in my life impact it great and small. I’m going to center in on two people who impacted me. One person who did it more than 20 years ago and somebody who impacted my life recently.
Now, the person that influenced me quite a while ago.
When I met her, it was at church.
She was (and is) a Mormon and I was a Mormon (but no more…that’s another story). I was dating somebody and met her on a singles get-together at the Opryland Hotel. It was during Christmas and we just hit it off.
And even though I was dating someone, I thought she was pretty dang cute (still is).
Anyway, like I said, we hit if off. Over time, my girlfriend and I would visit her and hang out. Then…the time came where I wasn’t dating my girlfriend anymore and my impactful friend and I stayed friends.
She got me into listening Crowded House and James Taylor. She taught me how it’s good to ‘dance like children of the night’. She said that I reminder her of Charles Grodin from the movie So I Married An Axe Murderer (I still don’t see it).
But the biggest thing she did for me was introduce me to, what would become, my favorite book in the whole wide world, All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten by Robert Fulghum. This is a book that I read, at least, once every year. Not too long ago I bought over 50 used copies to give away to people.
This book changed my life and how I think. I became a dedicated Robert Fulghum fan forever.
There was a time that she and I had lost touch for a few years and I thought about her a lot, just wondering how she was. I missed my friend a great deal.
Then…here comes Facebook and there she was. We reconnected and even though she’s a thousand miles away, she’s still close to my heart.
Thank you, Laura LaFond. You had a huge impact on my life and you will always have a place in my heart.
I love you forever.
And now… the person that impacted my life more recently.
This lady and I went to High School together. I knew who she was and I’m pretty sure she didn’t know who I was. We were in two different social groups.
It was High School. It happens.
Then…once again…here comes Facebook. And with Facebook, you connect with a lot of people who you knew in High School. Some of them you saw and talked to everyday and others you might have said two words to them in four years.
And we reconnected.
But it was different. We discovered we had things in common. She’s a published writer and I’m a wanna-be published writer. We comment of each others posts and pictures. And she sent me a copy of the children’s book she wrote and signed it. For a children’s book, it has a message for adults, too. The good ones always do.
I had started to write this blog and she encouraged me in a huge way. She let me know I was good (I’m still trying to believe that) and I could be published.
She sent me two more books. One an actually book and the other was audio.
And they, and her, changed my life.
The book is called You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. That book is full of inspiration that I had been searching for and it delivered it by the truckload. There were even moments that I cried reading it. Jen wrote it in the way I talk. My heart overfilled.
The audio book is called The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. As I listened to it, it let me know that I wasn’t just screwed up, I was a type. It explained me to a T, in a way I never thought was possible. And it told me why I think the way I think. It helped me understand myself better.
And, yes…I cried. Like the title, I’m a Highly Sensitive Person.
And my friend knew I would love these books. She went out of her way to send them to me. She did it because she wanted to share and to help me see myself the way she did.
Thank you, Carole Ann Hausman. You touched my heart by helping me to understand my own.
You have a friend for life…
If you have these ladies in your life, be thankful. They are wonderful human beings and a lot smarter than me.
And I’m thankful for that. If they weren’t, I’d be worse off.
There are others that have made impacts on my life and in future posts, I’ll thank them, too.
I urge you, if there is somebody in your life that has made a positive impact, for the love of all that’s holy, tell them. In some way, tell them how important they are to you. We have a limited amount of time on this revolving blue and green rock and the time is ticking away.
Speak up! Let them know.
And maybe you’ll be an impact on their life, too.
July 5th, 2016
I’ve decided to keep a blog about how I’m dealing with depression. I’m going to consider this a form of therapy. It might not help anybody else but it might help me.